Natural hair isn’t for everyone. How many times have you heard someone say these words?
Before you to beat me silly, keep reading. Then you can leave your thoughts in the comment section or send me an email (whatever works for you). I know you’ve heard people say this many times. Hell, you might even be the one in your entourage saying it. I used to be the one saying it too, not even paying attention to how powerful these words are.
It wasn’t until I started my natural hair journey that I realized how stupid I sounded.
If you’ve followed my blog from the start, you probably know how I decided to go natural. If this is your first time here, take some time to read about the beginning of my natural hair journey here.
Anyways, I was one of those people saying Natural hair isn’t for everyone or natural hair won’t look good on me. To me, the only way to wear my hair was relaxed (chemically straightened). Of course, that is because of what I’ve been taught growing up. And I’m sure it’s the case for a lot of you whether you’re from the motherland, the islands or the United States etc…
Do you ever take the time to realize what you’re saying by “natural hair isn’t for everyone” though?
Let’s dissect that a little
By saying natural hair isn’t for everyone you’re pretty much saying
1- The hair that you were created with isn’t for you. How can that be possible? How can one be born with hair that isn’t for them? If not for you, then for who? It is only growing out of your scalp, not anyone else’s. How do you explain that?
2- It is a sign of self-hate. We all have insecurities whether we want to admit it or not. But, repeating something like natural hair isn’t for you is bigger than insecurities. I see it as self-hate. You hate the way you look with your own hair. You hate it to the point that you burn your scalp every 6-8 weeks so you can look a different way. I do understand that it, unfortunately, was forced on a lot of us. But I believe it’s time that we start changing our perspective on what beauty is.
The only instances I think natural hair might not be for everyone are when
1- You don’t wear your natural hair out.
By that, I mean that all you do is cover your natural hair up with wigs, weaves, and braids, I will side with you that natural hair might not be for you. I’m not talking about women who wear protective styles once in a while to protect their hair. I’m referring to women who only rely on those avenues.
2- You don’t take care of your natural hair.
Some women are natural but don’t take the time to care for their hair. They walk around looking crazy with unkept hair. That is plain disgusting. There is a good number of women who barely take the time to wash, condition or even style their hair. Natural hair requires love. You have to give it special treatment. It is not ok to walk out the house looking like you have a bird’s nest on your head and talk about natural hair is ugly.
My point of view on the subject of Natural hair is not for everyone.
I think it’s ok to prefer a certain look over another on yourself. Whether you chose to relax your hair, wear a wig, weave etc… I don’t believe there is anything wrong with it. What I think is wrong is when we go around claiming that natural hair isn’t for everyone, or that it wouldn’t look good on you. These kinds of statements are nothing but negative and they make us look bad as a community.
Even if you chose to chemically straighten your hair, you shouldn’t speak bad on the hair that naturally grows out of your scalp. Other races are paying attention and our youth is listening, so we should be careful with what we teach them. They should be given the chance to grow up loving their hair in its natural glory. They should not be taught to hate their hair like we were, growing up.
Kinky natural hair is so beautiful when it’s taken care of.
All it needs is a little TLC and it will flourish just like any other hair type. I encourage you to learn to love your hair as is. Even if you feel like wearing your hair natural is too much for you to deal with, do as you please. Just don’t speak bad on it.
If you’ve considered going natural but you feel overwhelmed and don’t know where to start, you can learn. There is plenty of information out there for you.
These articles below will certainly guide you in the right direction.
Check out my natural hair care regimen here.
Find out what I’ve learned my first month being natural.
Feel free to check out my Instagram for ideas. I am on the kinkier side which can be super challenging at times. But I am learning how to care for my hair and through my hair, I am also learning a lot about me as a person. Before you go out there and say natural hair isn’t for everyone or natural hair wouldn’t look good on you, think about what you’re saying and learn.
Join the conversation. What are your thoughts on the subject? Have you heard anyone around you say Natural hair isn’t for everyone or that natural hair wouldn’t look good on them? Have you ever said that? Let us hear what’s on your mind below (whether you agree or disagree).
Please help me share this article by hitting the share buttons below. Sharing is caring!